ENTERTAINING A WOMAN'S ATTENTION PAST THE FIRST DATE
By: Anicia Bragg
You’ve got a woman’s gaze and moved past that awkward first meeting. Now what?
You’ve done the impossible – you’ve taken your dream girl out on the first date, and it was a smash hit! You conquered awkward conversation stoppers, pulled out your bag of charms, and totally swept her off her feet! You’re proud of how well it went! But before you go giving yourself a big pat on the back, you should be asking: “What now?”
Learning how to keep a girl interested in you can be frustrating (just watch a romcom) and your impending date #2 is definitely going to test your tactics. She’ll be watching you more intently and hoping for a repeat duet. So let’s get dive and give you the low-down on how staying up on your next date!
1. Think Outside Netflix And Chill
Your evening doesn’t always have to be dinner and a movie. A spontaneous and creative dates can fun and exciting. Head out onto the water and take a boat tour. Go urban exploring and take your cameras (or iphones), snap and be silly! Find a rock climbing gym. Take a tour of your town on bikes. Break out of the traditional trends. Bond over a shared new experience to call your own!
2. Enjoy Her Company, Not Your Drink
It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that if you’re falling down drunk, picking bar-fights, slurring your words, and frankly, not at your best after half a dozen drinks, she’s probably not going to want to see you again. Doesn’t mean you can’t have a drink, just set a hard limit.
3. Laughter Is a Man’s Best Friend
If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything. One of the top traits women want in their man is a great sense of humor. A good laugh lends itself to flirting. You’ll look playful and clever, giving you a way of fixing awkward situations, and add a new layer of charm to your personality!
4. Beware The Creeper Vibe
Girls love a guy who isn’t afraid to text her the day after a date. Go ahead, fire away! Remind them that you had a good time. Just don’t lay it on thick. What do I mean? Sounding like you’re practically engaged after only a week of seeing each other. Lay off the liberal use of emoji’s, you hear? Play it cool. Being overly needy only triggers her spider senses and that’s the last thing you want to do – set off a woman’s intuitions.
5. Play The Mystery Man… For A Little Whil
One thing that keeps women coming back for more is the thrill of mystery. You’re charismatic, attractive, have a good sense of humor. Beyond that, she doesn’t know much about you! She finds this sexy, so don’t spoil it right away! Why? You’re an appealing puzzle she’s trying to figure out.
Now, this doesn’t mean you should shroud yourself and never tell her anything personal about yourself. She’ll get bored with that! I’m saying don’t spill your deepest, darkest secrets over a glass of wine and set off the creep alert. Float enough tidbits about yourself to keep her wanting to know more.
6. Don’t Channel Your Teenage Schoolboy
Your date looks bangin’ in her outfit. I mean, wow. You can’t help but notice how great she looks. There’s a fine line between flattering her with how phenomenal her outfit looks on her and telling her all the unspeakable things you want to do with her looking at that outfit. This woman turns you on, but you have to lay off the sleaze. Keep your compliments classy. If anything, follow this single rule: Don’t say anything about her you’d never say in front of your mother.
7. She’s The Apple Of Your Eye
Girl’s love to talk (communicate) and they want to feel heard. They want you to take notice of their thoughts, hopes, dreams. Don’t just listen, engage her! Ask questions! Fun, sexy, and cute questions are a great way to create an open dialogue, get to know your date, and also to make her feel like she’s the only girl in the world for you.
8. Your Phone Doesn’t Exist While You’re With Her
You invited this girl out because you like her, right? So why would you spend your whole evening with your face buried in the backlight of your phone? Skip Instagram, don’t put snaps up of your date, and don’t keep your hands anywhere near your phone. Unless it’s work related (let her know if it is) or an absolute emergency, answering texts and calls is a mood killer. Do you really want her to remember the 30 times you checked Tumblr and your email, or the 30 times you made her blush and smile? I rest my case!
There you have it, all the essentials on how to keep a girl interested in you. I’ve laid out the groundwork; it’s your turn to build these dates into a relationship! Remember, dating doesn't have to be difficult, especially when you have this handy dandy guide. When you’ve found the right person, things just fall into place. My hope is this makes it easier to find that lucky girl! Good luck guys!!
Written by: Anicia Bragg
Special Thanks: Jonathan at Shandrew PR
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